How can I have contact stopped by parents when I reported the neglect?
my son and girlfriend have stopped my contact when we have a very special close bond having her overnight couple of nights every week with weekends away.I could not sit back and watch the drink driving with her in the car,drug using,leaving her on her own at night for a few hours,nofood or nappies etc etc any longer and as I reported it the parents will not allow any contact and I just cant understand why social services will not intervene when they are not there 24 hours a day.At this present time they shoplift with her
and I report to social services everyday.The parents taunt me with witheld phone calls of my grandaughter saying 'hello ' to me.She has been made a child in need by them so I cannot understand why they cannot overule the parents.Ive had my windows and doors put through with a car full of people with baseball bats to try and stop me from wanting to see her,threatening phone calls,text messages,etc.Anyone help please
You MUST contact the police regarding their law-breaking, otherwise Social Services may not take you as seriously as they might.
Also, you could start proceedings to take the child into your own care, although this is quite rare, but I've known it to succeed. What you have to do is prove your son and girlfriend are unfit parents, (perhaps you could get the girl's parents to back you on this.
It's a good idea to maintain a diary of the intimidation and nuisance events, backed up by photos, films, recordings, etc.
Sorry can't help you but I feel for you.
You did the right thing and hopefully something will be done about it before it's too late.
At least your granddaughter has a loving grandparent who cares about her enough to ring social services.
They are lack sometimes but keep on reporting it and something will be done.
As for the threatening phone calls etc, keep a diary of them and also keep any pictures and/or tapes of conversations and report it to the police.
Hope all goes well for you and her.
I would contact the police and file reports against both of them . Also tell the police you would like to file against children's services and why...go to children's services IN PERSON and speak to the director. NOT to a worker and demand to be seen. They put it off for as long as they can and alot of kids end up dead because of it. I know how you feel...I reported sexual abuse on behalf of my nephew and they asked his mother...(who is on drugs) did this happen? She said No..and they took her word for it. It was found out 2 YEARS later -he had been raped the entire time. Don't let up....make it miserable for them. They do not cherish her life but someone should and she needs you more than ever! I wish I could help you to rescue her.
If you get no where with the agency- call a child abuse hotline and see what they suggest.
Good luck and I will say a prayer for her safety and yours!
Im think your son and his girlfriend must be giving the social security people stories that could explain why the SS havent responded to your concerns. You could try contacting the police about this or perhaps get more advice from free services like the Citizens Advice Bureau.
Social services can be pretty lame when it comes to things like this, the authorities tend to want to keep natural families together as much as possible rather than have them live apart. I dont think your grandaughter who I assume is still very young realises how bad the situation is as she grew up in that environment. Unless the child is distressed in some way the authorities tend not to act. Even if they did whos going to care for your grandaughter? This is unless you decide to start proceedings yourself through the court to have parental control transferred to yourself for the care of the child. You will have to show that your son and his GF are unfit parents.
As for these thugs that are smashing up your house and the funny phone calls , record every incident (using photos, keeping a diary, and video or audio recording if possible) and report it to the police this is criminal damage and harassment.
Its very important that you compile as much evidence as possible that your grandaughter and yourself are being harmed in some way and present this to the police and the social services. This will support your case should you choose to commence proceedings for the care of your granddaughter.