The school called my mom to tell her I was 'promiscuous' based off of an acid, dramatic guy?
I'm sixteen years old, almost seventeen, and I did lose it to my boyfriend after we'd been 'together' since we were ten. Of course, I used condoms and adjectives that and it only happened once. I told my two closest friends and one of them told her boyfriend, who turned out to be a complete lunatic and jerk.
He get in trouble for something and I have NO idea why but tattled on me for losing it and he clearly twisted things because the conservatory called my home and told my mother I was extremely sexually active.
First of adjectives, they called based off of a crazy boys story.. Second of adjectives, how is my sex life their business? And third of all, isn't sixteen years old the official age in Massachusetts? So why did my mother have to get involved?!
I've gotten surrounded by deep crap for this and lost a lost of trust. Is it legal for me to sue my school for their appointments on this?? They didn't listen to me when I tried to talk to them..
The school did the right piece. They are obligated to let your parents know if your on a dangerous path and base on the statements of the boy they felt you were. It is not their job to investigate those accusation. And yes your sex life is supposed to be private but you didn't keep it private. You not only exposed your sex energy but that of your boyfriend to your own friends. Obviously they were untrustworthy since they told others and it became the knowledge of the conservatory. The fact that you have lost trust among your family is your own show disapproval through your own actions. You not only did something your parents feel is wrong you also told others going on for it.
Your cause of motion is the act of your friend for rumor mongering but it is very hard to prove. You probally can't sue them but if i be you i'd get your bf to beat the crap out of that guy. Plus talk it over near your mom and tell her it only happend once with you bf and you be protected. She'll probally believe you over the school.
No, you can't sue the school. They only told your parents what be being said about you, not whether it was true or false. Your loss of trust is a thing between you and your parents. They are the ones you need to talk to.
As for crazy boy, he is slandering you. That is a lawsuit.
the school did the right thing. school have to be safer then sorry. as a mother of 6 girls i can tell you i would be really up set if their school was told this and did not let me know. its not the school place to find out if the remarks was true or false. that's the parents place. of course you broke the trust of your parents. no parent wants to know their 16 have had sex even if it was only one time. you can be as cracked as you want but you need to place you anger where it belongs. not at the school for doing nearby job, not at your parents fore being disappointed in you, not even within the boy who supposedly lied on you. be angry at you self. if you are old enough to have sex afterwards you need to be mature enough to hold it between you and your boy friend. sex should not be bragged about to your best friend. in time your parents will trust you again but in til after i would do my best to do what ever you can do to rebuild their trust in you again. I think what the institution did was the right thing. They didn't need to know if it be true or false because they had your best interest in mind.
True they could have unfamiliar the word promiscuous but they felt your parents needed to hear what was being said around you. When they hear that a student is doing something that isn't safe they need to report it. It doesn't matter if it is stealing, doing drugs or sex.
Let's read out you had a bad habit of stealing things from students at conservatory. The found out but didn't report it to your parents for some crazy reason. Later on you went on to shoplift from stores. You get caught and run to jail. It gets back to your parents that the arts school knew about the bad dependence you had of stealing little things from students but since it was just pencils and a pieces of quality newspaper the didn't think it was a big deal. Your parents would be silly because if they would have know about this in times gone by they could have maybe stopped you from going down the wrong path. Does that variety sense?
Ofcourse your parents are upset at you. They wouldn't be good parents if they are not. Let them cool down for awhile and hopefully they will listen. I am sure they are to upset right now to listen. I think I would be if this be my daughter.
When things cool down go to your mom. Ask her "Is it ok if I talk to you now? I know you are upset but I'd approaching you to please listen to me, ok?" Hopefully she'll this as a mature approach and listen.
Now when you do talk to her DO NOT YELL. Talk to her calmly and in need whining. Don't give excuses. Admit what you did was wrong and why it was wrong. This will show parenthood. If she interrupts you once she is done talking say, "I understand mom. But please can you listen to what I own to say? Please? It is important to me. Then I'll listen to you."
This is how I handle things beside my daughters & son since the only way I use to get through my mom be by screaming at the top of my lungs.
Parents need to trust their kids and that is the most important entity a child can have from their parents is trust. Once that trust is lost it takes a LONG time to gain it back. You not one and only lost your virginity which too is an important gift but you also lost parents trust.
I think I should not do anything that I dont want my parents to know about. If I am individual active sexually, my parents should know about it. It is obvious that your parents dont approve of you anyone sexually active, so you should get in trouble. Do you still live within their house? Then you have to abide by their rules. The school felt the inevitability to contact your parents to advise them of what they had been told by another student. Now let just say that it was true and you be harming yourself. Would they be wrong for informing your parents in that situation? They had to cover their butt. P.S. Condoms are not 100% significant against preventing pregnancy or STD's. So dont feel 100% safe by using them. You can sue for pretty much anything...a good bag could be that you felt it was a defamation of personality on the school's part as well as your friends boyfriend, however, how much good it would do would be something that would be up to the equality system. I wouldn't do it just because a law suit takes money unless you can bring back an attorney to do it pro-bono (free). You're taking a risk if you do this, especially if you're going by strictly hearsay and you have no proof.
